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[chelseagirl]

Overhead in the Village, a pregnant woman telling her doorman "My martial arts instructor says I shouldn't watch any violent movies. But I only *like* violent movies."

Last night had dinner with R., a professor and (published) poet who was once a classmate of mine at Columbia (a couple of years ahead of me) and taught at Iona when I adjuncted there. Very cool person, very good conversation, mediocre food (we ate in Morningside Heights, where she still lives, not really the home of good restaurants). One of the things that frustrates me about New York is that we hadn't seen each other in over a year, had a fabulous time, said we'd see each other sooner this time, and . . . will we? It's frustrating the way people get into their own orbits and miss out on a lot of things they mean to do, people they mean to see. I am as guilty of this as anyone else; at least once the diss is done I want to change my lazy ways.

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[sbgrl.livejournal.com]

I hope you submitted that one to Over Heard in NY?

[sbgrl.livejournal.com]

Garg, Overheard in NY.

[chelseagirl.livejournal.com]

No, I'm afraid I've not heard of that. Do tell?

[sbgrl.livejournal.com]

Its a website, overheardinnewyork.com I never checked it out until about two seconds ago and it doesn't seem to make sense. I couldn't access anything. Anyway, there's a LJ feed overheardinny to check it out. If you view the LJ it takes you to the archives and you can submit what you heard there.

[malinaldarose.livejournal.com]

My best friend has lived in Arizona (when she was working on her masters degree), New Mexico (when she was running a women's shelter) and NYC (when her boyfriend found work there). She has now lived back here, in our hometown for three or four years. And yet, I can count the number of times we've seen each other in that span without running out of fingers.

She literally lives no more than three miles from me, yet we don't even talk on the phone. Part of it is that our schedules are offset by three hours, so by the time she gets out of work, I'm dead for the evening. Plus, she works Saturdays and has Sunday and Monday off, which means that the only day we can get together is Sundays and we both generally have obligations on that day.

We are pathetic. Or, at least, I am for not making a better effort....

[nycdeb.livejournal.com]

One of the things that frustrates me about New York is that we hadn't seen each other in over a year, had a fabulous time, said we'd see each other sooner this time, and . . . will we? It's frustrating the way people get into their own orbits and miss out on a lot of things they mean to do, people they mean to see.

I don't see this as a necessarily New York thing. I mean - yes, I agree it happens and as I am i NY - it happens here for me as a result but it can and would happen anywhere.

Hmmm...I'm not sure that sentence made sense.

[chelseagirl.livejournal.com]

Some of my friends who live in smaller places have smaller circles and manage to keep up with them all more regularly. *shrug* I'm sure it's not unique to here, but as New Yorkers tend to be particularly overcommitted on the professional and other fronts, and as in a larger place I assume there's a larger number of people each of us finds particularly congenial (since there are more to pick from), and would *like* to keep up with . . . OTOH, see comment above from linlithiel, who lives in a smaller town and is agreeing that it's her experience too.

[nycdeb.livejournal.com]

I think people find a way to do what and see who they want one way or another. If I fail in that regard - it's usually my own inertia.

Now that I think about NYC should make it EASIER to overcome that - what with the various trasnportation options here, there and everywhere - but I suppose my inertia is more powerful than the MTA.